Don’t Believe the B.S.

Go ahead.  Take a bubble bath.  Buy yourself a new nail polish.  Watch some trashy TV.  Spend an hour on Facebook.  But don’t believe for one minute that any of those activities are going to help you change your life in any real way.

They will help you stuff your feelings.  They will help you avoid doing the real work.  They will distract and numb you.

When someone asks why you haven’t started exercising, which you’ve been promising yourself for months you were gonna do, you can say, “I don’t have time.”

When you drag yourself to a job that drains you every morning, you can say to yourself, “I wish I had time to look for a new job or start that business on the side I’ve been thinking about.”

When you wonder why your life seems out of control (your marriage is in shambles; you never get to spend time with your friends; you’re facing general malaise, fatigue, aches and pains; you cannot seem to start – or finish – projects that you’re passionate about and your children are running wild) you can declare, “But my life is so stressful!  I need to have these mindless things in my day to help me unwind!”

The truth is, you deserve to live a life you love.  You deserve to nurture yourself.  In fact it’s imperative.  It’s just that those numbing and distracting activities don’t actually nurture you.  They help you stay stuck.

I’m not saying you should never spend time noodling around.  I’m not saying you should never “waste time.”

I am saying you need to take a long hard look at the distracting activities in your life.  What are you fleeing from?  What do you do when you want to numb out?  Can you do a little less of it to make time for the things that will actually nurture you in the long run?

I bet you can.  And you will feel better.  You will feel better about yourself and your life and your foward movement.

So, put down the box of Thin Mints, turn off the TV, step away from the computer.

Drink a glass of water.  Stretch a little.  Take a walk.  Go find your journal (it’s there, under the magazines that tell you to take a bubble bath to relieve your stress) and write for 10 minutes about  a dream or goal you have for your life.  Do some small task to clean up your environment – throw in a load of laundry, go through that pile of mail, make your bed.  Check here for more ideas.

You do have the time, and the power, and everything else you need, to make the changes in your life that will bring you real peace and ease and happiness.



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