The Best Laid Plans…

At 11:00 pm last night, when I was already ready for bed, the phone rang. It was my daughter calling from Union Station in Washington DC to say she had missed the bus that was taking her back to college. She was sobbing. There were no other buses or trains she could take to her […]

How To Create a New Habit This Week

I’m really interested in habits, because what we do and think determine the life we live. Habits are the basis for everything else in our lives. As Aristotle so pithily put it, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” If we aim to live an excellent life, […]

You Are Already An Amazing Miracle

I often do an exercise with my clients where I ask them to write one hundred things that make them awesome. Let me guess.  You just thought, “One hundred things? No way I could ever do that.” Many people have a hard time with it – we are trained to look for our flaws and […]

3 Ways to Manage the Voices in Your Head

You’ve set your daily and weekly priorities, you’ve defined your tiny action steps, but maybe still feel stuck and thwarted by the chatter in your mind saying things like: “You’ll never achieve that.  You’re not good enough, smart enough, young enough, old enough, disciplined enough – just not enough, period.” “Who do you think you are? […]

I’m Not Doing My Brilliant Thing Because…

…I can’t get myself to take action!   You do have a brilliant thing that you really want to create. Maybe you want to start a new career, or build a healthy, strong body, or host a fabulous party, or write a book, or re-do your closet… Something that you are super excited about. But […]

Discipline is Remembering What You Want

This quote from David Campbell, founder of Saks Fifth Avenue, is one of my all time favorites.  We often think of discipline as a way to get ourselves to do things we don’t really want to do – whether that’s exercise; working on a large, multi-faceted project; eating well; or doing chores around the house. […]

Fill Your Cup with Delight Every Day

It’s not what you do it’s how you do it.  It’s not what you see, it’s how you look at it.  It’s not how your life is, it’s how you live it. ~ Nishan Panwar Do you take time every day to do something to delight yourself? I love the word “delight!”  It has the […]

Are You Telling a Victim Story?

It’s often easier to blame circumstances outside of ourselves for our failure to move toward our goals than it is to take responsibility for our choices.  It can be gratifying and fun to play the victim. You could have lost that five pounds if only you hadn’t had to go to  so many social events […]

Do What’s Hard

During my first week at college, I saw a flyer tacked up on a bulletin board – “If you’re interested in joining the women’s crew team, show up at this place at this time.” So I did. I had never rowed before, but it drew me in.  The first time I sat in a shell […]

Don’t Believe the B.S.

Go ahead.  Take a bubble bath.  Buy yourself a new nail polish.  Watch some trashy TV.  Spend an hour on Facebook.  But don’t believe for one minute that any of those activities are going to help you change your life in any real way. They will help you stuff your feelings.  They will help you avoid […]